There is a night concierge at one of the condos I deliver to. He sees my car coming up to the front of the building on his monitor, and he rushes up from his desk to open the door for me. He is always friendly, smiling, joking, flirting. He pays me little empty compliments, commenting on my t-shirt with the deer on it, how I always have a smile, how my eyes sparkle in the moonlight, how lovely my hair looks, how he likes it long. But, when my mother died, he made a point of expressing his condolences (I gather my co-worker told him why he had to deal with her instead of me, the smiling one, for a few nights).
I look forward to this bright spot in a dark night of working alone. His routine is what makes me smile when I get to that part of my route.
On Friday, I had my hair done. It is much shorter, a little different shade.
He didn't notice!
A flirt should pay attention to their flirting comments, don't you think?
Hey you cut your hair! Well, I like it long on women, but this looks good on you.
ReplyDelete(Hope that helps. ;-) )
Well,when he gave you no compliment, that was his way of saying that he was not happy about your hair, so I guess you better let it grow longer again. He is probably the least little bit devastated. Poor guy. Lord only knows how attached to your hair he was.
ReplyDeleteIrene: My guess is he has a very limited repertoire...
ReplyDeleteHe wouldn't have been too attached to the skunk infused end bits for long!
Mr Nighttime: blush, thanks.
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely! It's nice to get compliments and be noticed.
ReplyDeleteCJ xx
Maybe he's just playing hard to get....
ReplyDeleteMaybe he thinks that you are not aware that he is a flirt and that making such an overt flirt would blow his "subtle" cover. Or it could be the whole issue of hair itself. It is dangerous ground for a man to comment on. My dear wife just cut her hair in half this week. I am torn between wanting to gush over how much I like it ( I really do) and not wanting it to seem like I did not like it before (I really did). It is tricky business for a guy to know the right thing to say on such matters. Trust me, even from the experience of trying to flirt with my wife of all these years, I still know what it is like to freeze up in the right moment and then make things worse. Or, it could be that he just cannot see anything else but your "eyes sparkling in the moonlight" which still leaves him breatheless! :)
ReplyDeleteListen at me, I feel like I just became the court appointed defense attorney for the flirt.
Crystal: yes, whether it is true or not!
ReplyDeleteFrog: oh it is all a 3 second game, nothing taken seriously.
Under There: if you saw what I really look like delivering papers in the rain... it is not often pretty
Maybe he was distracted by some terrible personal problem which eclipsed his natural flirtiness. Probably you should have noticed that he wasn't his usual self and asked, kindly and gently if everything was okay at which point he would have confided all to you and brought the two of you closer than ever. But since you didn't he is now sad at your insensitivity and is re-thinking the notion of you as his soul-mate.
ReplyDeleteXUP: Oh dear, it took a little while to even realize he hadn't noticed ... I never thought about his 'other life'. I shall check with my replacement what he says to her about her eyes/smile/hair etc.
ReplyDeleteLOL yes absolutely! someone who flirt should pay attention to their flirting comments... I don't like it too when I get my hair cut (as I also had it done yesterday) and nobody notices :) I'm blessed to have great neighbours who DO notice these things and who will tell me in no uncertain terms "ahem UA, you NEED a haircut!"
ReplyDeleteUA: Now they are far too honest!
ReplyDeleteI think he likes you just the way you choose to be.
ReplyDeletelol ... yes, you're absolutely right.
ReplyDeleteYou'd think! Better an associate not notice than your spouse, though. And that happens.
ReplyDeleteThis has all been very amusing. Poor man, imagine if he knew how closely he was scrutinized.
ReplyDeleteBut indeed, the flirt should maintain the flirt by noticing any and all changes.
Ruth: Yes, some people? or men don't pay any attention to what they say - it must come as quite a shock to learn that some others of us actually do listen. You can't really play the game properly unless you listen.
ReplyDeleteMaybe he was just having an off-day? Sounds like a generally attentive guy.
ReplyDeleteDon't you wonder though if he flirts like that with everyone who delivers something there? You shoudl order a pizza to be delivered there and then hide and watch what he does. Of course, that would be kind of creepy if you did that now that I think about it...
ReplyDeleteCitizen: Nope, still hasn't noticed, or at least commented! I'm finding this funny as he went on about my hair for a week and a half when I said it was going to be cut soon!
ReplyDeleteLeplume: It is all a performance; forgotten the moment it is out of his mouth. Quite amusing really.